About the Author
Paul
Fedynich
Has anyone ever woke up one morning and have their entire world turned upside down? Paul Fedynich did! It was August 1997, and he remembers it as if it were yesterday. Paul’s wife of 17 years woke up and decided she needed help. Since he knew something was wrong, Paul thought this would be a good thing. She was being treated for bipolar disorder and psychosis, and Paul was never made aware of it. Instead, he thought she was being treated for depression.
The day went downhill quickly as she accused Paul of being the devil and molesting their four-year-old daughter to her psychiatrist, who committed her to the psychiatric ward.
Fortunately for him, child services and the Seminole County sheriff’s department investigated the claim quickly and thoroughly. They found the claim unfounded because of the circumstances, child services, and the Seminole County sheriff’s department. This accusation would come about again at a later date in another country.
That was the first day of the unraveling of Paul’s life. He had it all, or so he thought. The perfect happy family, three happy, healthy kids, his wife was a stay-at-home mom, a 3 acres house with a pool, and he had a successful electrical contracting business. It was all systematically ripped apart; divorce proceedings commenced, and it wasn’t long before their mother abducted Paul’s children. In time, not only did he lose his family, but Paul also lost his home, his business, and almost his life.
Over the next two years, Paul did everything he could to fight the system and get the kids back. The many court dates; traveling between Orlando and Canada where his kids were, hiring anybody and everybody who said they could help him. Paul eventually became financially and emotionally bankrupt. He began to spiral downward and out of control.
Paul started drinking a lot and was to the point when he went out and didn’t stop until the bar closed. It deadened the pain and postponed the loneliness. Paul knew he had a problem, but he didn’t care. The worst feeling in the world he ever experienced was that he no longer cared about anything or anyone except for his kids.
There were many nights while driving home drunk, Paul wanted to unclick the seat belt and go head first right into this concrete wall on the beltway in Orlando. There was only one thing that always kept him from doing it, the thought of his kids and how someday they would want their father back in their life. Paul had a massive run of bad decisions and bad choices. A series of 4 deaths in the family in about six months. He was aware that he was out of control; Paul knew he had to do something.
Paul kept asking himself, “How do I regain control of my life? How do I get myself together again?” He always had the same answer; “When I hit rock bottom.” Then, he hit rock bottom!
Just as Paul had directed his subconscious, it put him in the position to discover. Paul found rock bottom on a cold and damp concrete floor of the Seminole County jail.
He laid there shivering and asking himself, “How did I end up here? How could I let this happen to me? Where has my dignity gone?”
From that experience, he became a new man. A smarter, wiser, more resilient, and changed man. Paul’s life would never be the same again, moving forward.
New doors have been opened, and opportunities presented themselves. Paul had some significant failures since that time, but nobody can take away the lessons he learned and the impact he made on others along the way.
Overcoming the significant turbulences in life has given him such strength and the desire to become a go-giver while maintaining status as a go-getter.
The successes Paul Fedynich had always brought him to elevated heights, which would welcome new failures. It’s a vicious cycle, but that’s how life is.
Paul’s desire now is to help as many people as possible overcome the turbulence in their lives and reach their maximum potential and then some.